“I have had to live with security measures that I never dreamed about when I was learning to deliver babies,” he told a gathering at the University of Toronto in 2008 to mark the 20th anniversary of the Supreme Court decision to strike down Canada’s abortion law.
Dr. Romalis remained firm in his resolve to provide a safe, legal service for women, many of whom, he noted, were in the biggest trouble of their lives.
“By performing a five-minute operation, in comfort and dignity, I can give them back their lives,” he would say. At 76, Dr. Romalis was still performing abortions when a severe attack of pancreatitis sent him to hospital, where he died on Jan. 30.
“Because of what happened to him over his life, he is known as a pioneer and an iconic figure, not just in Vancouver, but in the medical and women’s communities of North American,” says Dorothy Shaw, vice-president of medical affairs at B.C. Women’s Hospital. “His determination to persevere in the face of not one, but two murder attempts is remarkable. He was so committed. He was never afraid.”
Those closest to him consider it unfortunate that Dr. Romalis came to be known almost exclusively for the pair of violent attacks against him and his subsequent abortion activism. They remember him as an extraordinary physician dedicated to his craft, a long-time clinical professor at UBC’s medical school, and a family man intensely devoted to his wife, daughters and grandchildren, as well as his community.
Away from the public eye, Dr. Romalis served a term as president of the local Beth Israel synagogue, while regularly volunteering for charitable campaigns to help the homeless.
From Winnipeg to Vancouver
Garson Romalis was born Oct. 23, 1937, in the turbulent, working-class North End of Winnipeg, the older of two brothers. His paternal grandparents had arrived from Moldova near the turn of the last century, fleeing the pogroms sweeping through the region. His father, Louis Romalis, worked at numerous jobs. Early on, he also found time to wrestle competitively, before his fiancée, Lillian Posner, ordered him to stop, or their marriage was off. Louis Romalis had many brothers and sisters, allowing young Gary to grow up surrounded by cousins, an experience that helped forge his lifelong appreciation of family.
His parents moved to Vancouver when Gary was 10. During his active teenage years in the city’s Kitsilano area, he played sports and set his mind to becoming a doctor. A family friend steered him toward obstetrics and gynecology.
He was already well-established when the 30-year old doctor had a fateful blind date with Sheila Balshine, a 22-year old architectural designer. Bantering back and forth all evening, the two fell hard for each other. Two and a half months later, on his 31st birthday, Dr. Romalis proposed. They were married Feb. 3, 1969. “There’s a Yiddish word: b’shert,” Ms. Romalis says. “It was meant to be.”
The couple spent two of their early married years in Israel. Their first child, Lisa, was born there.
They returned to Vancouver in 1972, mostly because they missed their close-knit families. Daughters Tara and Dana soon followed.
Dr. Romalis joined a thriving Vancouver practice as the youngest partner of three other obstetrics and gynecology physicians, remaining there for more than 20 years, until the shooting.
He particularly relished his obstetrics duties. “Gary just loved holding newborns and [seeing] the looks on the parents’ faces,” Ms. Romalis says. “He could hold infants, calm them. He had a way with them.”
As years went by Dr. Romalis worried that the retirement of older, experienced doctors would lead to a shortage of qualified abortionists.
He also felt abortions were being taken for granted. Medical schools did not seem to consider them a priority, perhaps because of the stigma that still clung to the procedure.
Teaching became Dr. Romalis’s new passion. Whenever he travelled, he would search out other abortion providers to see what he could learn from them.
In turn, he inspired students to become proficient in the practice. Rarely did he perform abortions in his later years without several aspiring gynecologists looking on. He was a mentor to hundreds. “It was not to advocate for abortions; it was to ensure there were skilled hands to continue in his place,” Dr. Norman says.
Dr. Romalis leaves his brother, Coleman; wife, Sheila; daughters Lisa, Tara and Dana; and his six grandchildren.
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