They wanted to do it differently than their strict 1950s mothers and fathers did. But their kids say the boomer parenting revolution can go too far. Tralee Pearce reports. ...Read the full article
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joanne munding from toronto, Canada writes: The boomer parenting revolution has indeed gone too far. Its okay to want to be your childs best friend and its okay to want to be thought of as 'Cool' in the eyes of your kids friends but are we doing them any favors in the long run? Our generation has the highest Young Offender Related child populace than our parents did. It was relatively unheard of for past generations to be involved with the law, shootings, drugs and other offences as there are today. Is this what we had in mind when we said we were going to raise our kids differently? I have been lucky that my kids never became involved with the law, but as a Court Agent i see far too many kids lining the walls waiting to be released or to appear before a judge. Sure we spared the rod, but we spoiled the child in the process. If we gave our kids a message it was one that we dont care about their welfare as long as we fit into their social group as the 'Cool' or 'Happinin" parent. Have we done them any justice. Most parents are too afraid to even ground their kids, because they are afraid to become unacceptable. My kids were thankful that well i spared the rod, i kept a line between parent and friend when necessary. As a result i have an endless lineup of what i call my 'Adopted' children. As with my own, i will dish out a lecture to each of them when i see that it is necessary and they often write me a letter on Mothers day, or just to say 'Thank-you for being there, listening, being tough but always opening an arm when they need to feel support.' Would i change this and try to become the life of the party or the mom who will sit and toke or drink with them? Absolutely not. I would rather have a young adult tell me they hate me from time to time, because, then and only then can i actually smile and say, i have accomplished what my overly strick parents did not. I know they will be back to say they are sorry, but they will not be afraid or feel dominated either. They will feel security.
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