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Incredible woman is 20 years younger than me

CLAUDIA DEY

From Thursday's Globe and Mail

Latest comment posted at 10:06 AM EST 17/01/08

Do we have any hope for success as life partners given our disparate ages? ...Read the full article

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  1. brokeback mountain from toronto, Canada writes: isn't that the age difference between Celine and her husband?
  2. scott thomas from Canada writes: Follow the half-your-age-plus-seven rule.
  3. Black Jerry from Canada writes: He's in his mid 40's and he's dating someone in her 20's? I fail to see the problem here.
  4. Mr. Justice from Canada writes: Does this guy think that she's going to stick around ? She will outgrow whatever she sees in him (perhaps right after she meets a guy whom she is attracted to who is . . . a lot closer to her own age -- what a coincidence !), and move on . . . .
  5. Craig Cooper from Toronto, writes: This guy doesn't have a problem. He's just bragging!
  6. X. T. from Canada writes: Craig Cooper from Toronto, writes: This guy doesn't have a problem. He's just bragging!
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    Well, in 2004 a famous Chinese guy, Nobel Prize laureate, Chen-Ning Franklin Yang, married a 28-year old girl at age 82. All those overseas Chinese student suddenly became much more hard-working over night.

    See how well an example works. :-)
  7. Robert Boyd from Windsor, Canada writes: Nothing wrong with this - she can push the wheelchair.
  8. j wilson from vancouver, Canada writes: Ditto, Craig Cooper.

    1) The age difference isnt important. So it might eventually fail! Same as with anyone you date... just have fun and make sure the old baggage is long over the side of the boat before making any drastic moves.

    2) You ex-wife either doesnt care or will care too much for the wrong reasons. Can't see any good from telling her. Youre having trouble making the transition from husband to ex. Understandable. You've still gotta make the transition, though.

    She has a right to know if you've been hiding money in the Caymans. Not whether youve go a girlfriend.

    You have no social imperative to tell her anything about your personal life, and it might be nothing more than mean to do so.

    Quiet and dignified! Best of Luck!
  9. My eyes are open, Are yours? from Canada writes: Have fun, but remember when you meet her parents, they might be old classmates of yours.

    When she hits her prime in 10 years or so, are you going to be able to keep up?

    What expectations does she have of your current or future income? If this gets serious, I smell a pre-nup.
  10. Northern Pike from Kitchener, Canada writes: 20 years younger than me would make me a pedophile. scott thomas : Half my age 7 rule would make me smile..... ALOT!
  11. Jorly fuster from Canada writes: boffing a 26 year old?????? go for it dude!!
  12. brokeback mountain from toronto, Canada writes: now we know why viagara is in high demand
  13. Andrew E from Canada writes: An 86-year-old man went to his doctor for his quarterly check-up...

    The doctor asked him how he was feeling, and the 86-year-old said, 'Things are great and I've never felt better. I now have a 20 year-old bride who is pregnant with my child. So what do you think about that, Doc?'

    The doctor considered his question for a minute and then began to tell a story.

    'I have an older friend, much like you, who is an avid hunter
    and never misses a season. One day he was setting off to go hunting.
    In a bit of a hurry, he accidentally picked up his walking cane instead
    of his gun. As he neared a lake, he came across a very large blanket beaver sitting at the water's edge. He realized he'd left his gun at home and so he couldn't shoot the magnificent creature. Out of habit he raised his cane, aimed it at the animal as if it were his favorite hunting rifle and went 'bang, bang'. Miraculously, two shots rang out and the beaver fell over dead. Now, what do you think of that?' asked the doctor.

    The 86-year-old said, 'Logic would strongly suggest that somebody else
    pumped a couple of rounds into that beaver.'

    The doctor replied, 'My point exactly.'
  14. TKO WKD1 from London, Canada writes: Go for it!

    Two 20 year olds are better than one 40 year old.
  15. X. T. from Canada writes: My eyes are open, Are yours? from Canada writes: Have fun, but remember when you meet her parents, they might be old classmates of yours.
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    Well in the Chinese case I presented here, his 'father-in-law' is about 20 years younger than himself. Love to see the old man calling someone 20 years younger 'dad'.
  16. Na Ni from Toronto, Canada writes: I'm turning 25 this year and my bf is 10 years older... he gets tired a lot.

    I'm just saying.... =P
  17. X. T. from Canada writes: Na Ni from Toronto, Canada writes: I'm turning 25 this year and my bf is 10 years older... he gets tired a lot.

    I'm just saying.... =P
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    haha, I think the Greek people have a famous dish made of goat or beef testicles. Let me try that. :-)

    If that doesn't work, shop at some Chinese medicine stores for some miracle tonic. No, they are not made of endangered species.
  18. RD Lone from Vancouver, Canada writes: Could quite possibly be a gold digger.

    Anyway, you have gone through divorce once so you know how to protect your assets. Oh yeah, don't tell the ex anything so she doesn't gouge you too bad.
  19. Pro Canada from Canada writes: I have never managed to read more than 1 sentence of Claudia Day's contribution. It's an embarassment to the act of writing.
  20. David Jackson from Ottawa, Canada writes: I fully agree with Carolyn. Date her, but don't even think about a committment at this stage. You need time to establish yourself. And you know, the age difference will get far worse as YOU get older. So, really think about it before you ruin your life with a marriage.....again.
  21. Jay Dela Cruz from Canada writes: Love is a crazy thing and I say go for it, if you're happy then thats' all that matters.

    I'm currently in a relationship of 4 years with a 26 year age differance and we're both happy and smiling.

    P.S. Don't tell the ex
  22. D K from Canada writes: High five!
  23. Mr. Justice from Canada writes: This IS 'the Thursday item' . . . right ?
  24. Not right or left from Canada writes: I hope I can get a woman in her 20's when I'm 40. I'm currently 27 so I don't have to worry about that yet.
  25. Joseph T from Victoria, Canada writes: Sounds like this hilarious situational read on this forum: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t141218/

    Well, I shouldn't diss the gal on that particular thread, but she certainly knows what she wants. Talk about a man eater. Perhaps this guy just got played the same way?

    For me, what do I know about these things?

    Heck! My second wife has been born yet!
  26. J S from Canada writes: Na Ni: he gets tired a lot at 35? That's too young. Maybe he's just not that into you.
  27. C J from Canada writes: i agree with Pro Canada!
  28. Veronica Corningstone from Canada writes: At 23, I was dating a man 18 years older. More often than not people will quickly assume 'golddigger'. In my situtation he was using me as a trophy for his business trips. It was only after we moved in that he 'laid down the law' that I was to come home and cook and clean for him (in addition to other rules like I was not allowed a television). It ended very badly because someone with 20 years experience over me could easily manipulate the situation to make him feel like the victim. I am happily engaged to a man 2 years older than me and has never once made me feel like the 'kid he took off the street'.
  29. Edward Ertl from Bathurst, NB, Canada writes: To Pro Canada,
    As a 64 year old épistolier, I love to write, and my correspondents love to read 'me'. I only wish I could write as well as Claudia Day!
    Ed
  30. Brian W from Burlington, Canada writes: Veronica Corningstone from Canada - I'm glad you're on your way to resolving your 'daddy' issues.
  31. Ed Andrews from Edmonton, Canada writes: Are you outta your mind? Your kids will be calling you mommy and grandaddy.
  32. n a from Toronto, Canada writes: There are two sides to every divorce. Instead of seeking advice in a newspaper why don't you take some time to find out where you contributed to the problems in your marriage? I doubt that your wife became 'hostile' for new reason. You knew would receive support from any man reading this column but that isn't necessarily the best advice.
  33. Wandering Willy from Victoria, Canada writes: Absolutely nothing wrong with dating a twenty something at any age. Do not tell the Ex!!
  34. brokeback mountain from toronto, Canada writes: Na Ni, you should get a hot black guy as your lover...
  35. P Martin from St. John's, NL, Canada writes: My father was 50 when he married my mother, 29 years his junior. They will be soon celebrating 37 years of marriage.
  36. Kay Ay from Canada writes: The only thing no one has mentioned is she may want to have children and he might want to be ready for that.
    This happened to a friend of my husbands...married a lovely woman close to 15 years younger...in fact only five years older than his first son.
    I mentioned the baby thing to him and he said it was the only 'sticking point'. They now have a lovely little 4 yr old girl.
  37. Jim Smith from Canada writes: This is the best news I've heard this morning. Very good. Keep up the good work!
  38. gao gao from Canada writes: Veronica Corningstone, I am glad you left that jerk. Be proud of yourself, because many women don't have the courage to leave their controlling freak.
  39. X. T. from Canada writes: Joseph T from Victoria:
    Based on the story I posted here, you should find a second wife that is (82-28=64) years younger. So you can start raise her when you are ready to retire.

    hm... home grown certified organic free range wife. Yum!
  40. raine turner from Canada writes: ah have fun! Just one thing to consider: Men are still sexy around their 40's (if they take care of themselves) that and the money- brains, good restuarants etc can be a 'status symbol' for the young girls. Face it - older men can pamper more- and generally know a few more things to keep a young girl happy--- BUT-- when she hits 35/40 and he is 55/60 plus-- he tends not to be so sexy anymore and that is when SHE is in her prime and will start looking at the 20 somethings she did not have when she was young-----she just might want to play in that sandbox when she gets older-- something to think about--
    Just want some fun- go for it- and you know you have to spoil her to keep her- so she gets what she wants as well.
  41. Zal Black from Toronto, Canada writes: The Real issue shouldn't be about a possible divorce down the road but when she has children in her 30's and the man retires 10 years later with children is SHE prepared to support her kids though their teen years, college years, weddings, etc.. whil eher husband is retired ?
  42. Rollo Tomasi from Belgium writes: 4.5 months is merely a good start to a long term relationship, not necessarily a good indication of a lifetime committment.

    No problem with age difference, but you owe it to yourself and the new girl to get rid of the old wife first.
  43. Don Quixote from Banana Belt Ontario, Canada writes: Most 20 year old woman are incredible, exspecially if you can be a benefit to them....
  44. Jim OKeefe from Toronto, Canada writes: I was 37 when my ex and I seperated. Although I releshed being seperated, and my hair stopped falling out, I was dry for close to a year when BAM, I was getting lots of lovin' from girls everything to a few years older to many years younger. A very happy second bachelor period. I eventually settled down with a woman 12 years my junior. Didn't meet the half plus 7 rule at the time, and got ribbing from an older brother - robbing the craddle eh James? We've been together now for over four years, married for over 2, and she's 4 months preggie. (and yes, I'm sure its mine).
  45. Zal Black from Toronto, Canada writes: back when I was 19 I was dating a 27 yo and my father, 41, was also dating a 27yo!
  46. Terry F from Edmonton, Canada writes: I get hit on by ladies in their early twenties and I'm in my mid-forties. As a matter of fact, one particulary lithe but busty 22 year old psychology student that I've known for the last couple of years asked me a few days ago if I could take some 'photos' of her this summer. Of course I was calm and collect on the outside even though I was singing the hallelujah chorus inside. Life is good.
  47. Joseph T from Victoria, Canada writes: XT>> haha

    Canada is such a wonderful progessive country. Lots of new rights established by our illustrious Supreme Court justices things like Gay marriages..... I read somewhere on this G & M site a few years ago, a couple of well known feminist lawyers recommend to the govt to abloish the traditional concept of a binary marriage to a poly one. Even our local provincial govt in BC recently drop prosecuting the Bountiful Colony case due to fears of a losing a Charter challenge on religious grounds. Someday, somewhere in Canada the traditional definition of binary marriages will be thrown out.....perhaps then lots of Guys in Canada will celebrate and marry their mistresses as second wives!!!

    I guess then lots of lawyers will be out of work on infidelity issues? But then again, there will a windfall for lawyers working on mulitiple asset and custody separation issues with poly couples.
  48. Socrates speaks from Canada writes: Age different marriages / relationships only last to look for an excuse for a breakup.
  49. Joseph T from Victoria, Canada writes: Socrates speaks from Canada writes: Age different marriages / relationships only last to look for an excuse for a breakup.>> if there is a solution to this age old problem, lots, I mean, lots of divorce lawyers will be thrown out of work! Are you a heartless person?
  50. C M from Calgary, Canada writes: I say enjoy it while it lasts, because it won't......
  51. Bob Fugger from Victoria, Canada writes: Zal Black from Toronto, Canada writes: The Real issue shouldn't be about a possible divorce down the road but when she has children in her 30's and the man retires 10 years later with children is SHE prepared to support her kids though their teen years, college years, weddings, etc.. whil eher husband is retired?

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    Ummmm, up until the 1950s, men were doing just that: supporting children through their teen years, college years, weddings, etc. But if men do that now, they're lazy layabouts. Enjoy your liberation...I certainly do. ;)
  52. Joseph T from Victoria, Canada writes: If poly marriages are ever legalised in Canada, imagine the poor guy in a divorce from both wives? 1st wife takes 50%, second wife takes the remaining 50%, then the lawyers take his soul! The homeless population of guys will sky rocket in Canada! ;)
  53. X. T. from Canada writes: Joseph T from Victoria:
    Well, the binary definition of marriage is too 1900s. There is already a wonderful place in your province, called Bountiful, where people practice Mormon Hold'em. And look at today's another article on bisexuality. Can't have only one spouse to be bisexual I guess. :-)

    You are right, we need to keep our fellow citizens at work even they are divorce lawyers. Supporting local businesses should not stop at refusing Walmart and other ChinaMart's.
  54. X. T. from Canada writes: Joseph T from Victoria, Canada writes: If poly marriages are ever legalised in Canada, imagine the poor guy in a divorce from both wives? 1st wife takes 50%, second wife takes the remaining 50%, then the lawyers take his soul! The homeless population of guys will sky rocket in Canada! ;)
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    Well, that's the worse case. If two wives decide to divorce him at the same time, that guy can still keep 1/3 instead of 1/4.

    But on the other hand, there are people who have divorced/married for alarming number of times like Larry King and Liz Taylor. I don't see them living poor. Maybe that explains why Larry always wears the same pair of suspended pants every day?
  55. Blind InTheSun from Canada writes: If she likes you now, power to you! But beware, you are gonna be 'old' all of a sudden, one day, to her. 26 is still pretty young and when she's a still hot 36 and you are a slowing down 56 you might look like her aging dad. That's gonna hurt, man.
  56. Joseph T from Victoria, Canada writes: I think the solution for men who know or at risk of staying in their relationship with their significant other is to settle down with a person of mixed ethnicity. For example, marry an Eurasian girl. One night she can dress with an emphasis to highlight her 'Asian' look, another day she can dress to look European. See, you have two girls in one. Very safe. No risk of getting kick in the family jewels if you stray.
  57. Joseph T from Victoria, Canada writes: Blind InTheSun from Canada writes: If she likes you now, power to you! But beware, you are gonna be 'old' all of a sudden, one day, to her. 26 is still pretty young and when she's a still hot 36 and you are a slowing down 56 you might look like her aging dad. That's gonna hurt, man. >> not always true, sadly. I have seen 36 year women look 50 due to poor genetics, lifestyle etc...Ever seen some of those peasant women in Eastern Europe? You get my drift......
  58. Joseph T from Victoria, Canada writes: XT But on the other hand, there are people who have divorced/married for alarming number of times like Larry King and Liz Taylor. I don't see them living poor. Maybe that explains why Larry always wears the same pair of suspended pants every day? >>don't you know Larry King is not exactly married to his latest, but rents her by the hour. ;)
  59. Joseph T from Victoria, Canada writes: raine turner: 'Just want some fun- go for it- and you know you have to spoil her to keep her- so she gets what she wants as well.'>> this is kinda like the relationship I have with my ATM machine. When I ask, it gives me money, when it's empty, I am sad.
  60. Timber Wolf from Richmond, BC, Canada writes: Face it buddy, this 26 year old girl likely views you as a benefactor, or has daddy issues. She may be mature for her age---as this is contingent on life experience---but as others have stated, things will probably change in a decade.

    I'm 42, and last year I dated a couple blondes who are 24 and 23 respectfully. It didn't feel right, and I had to commit relationship infantcide in earnest. I appreciate the allure that this 26 year old may not have as much baggage as someone who is 40; indeed, this is part of the allure of dating someone younger. Likewise, I know a lot of women in their late 20's and early 30's who hit on guys my age in the sense that they seek a mentor. Nevertheless, if you date a girl who is young enough to be your daughter, don't go there!

    As for your ex, she isn't an issue since if you are wise, you will terminate this new relationship asap.
  61. Timber Wolf from Richmond, BC, Canada writes: Just as with Ponce De Leon, you will languish in this futile attempt to find the fountain of youth.
  62. Child of the North in Canada from Canada writes: Ha. Ha. An article in the Globe and Mail today on 'Ghost Fathers', many of them bitter and unhappy with their ex-wives, and this happy lot over here in this article. Hope none of you guys end up in the first story.
  63. Brian Dell from Alberta, Canada writes: At 44, half plus 7 is 29, so she´s offside. On the flip side, she should only consider men up to 38.

    However, wait 6 years, and half of 50 plus 7 is 32, which she´ll be in 6 years, so she becomes onside.

    Conclusion: wait 5 years, until 49, and round up. If she still wants you then, she really wants you!

    That´s a bit of a joke, of course, but I think the rule has enough merit behind it I think it´s a bit dodgy when a guy is trying to break it.
  64. An Opinion from Canada writes: This article does not mention children, but if there are, this would be a major complicating factor. Does the now-girlfriend want to be a future stepmom with a potentially hostile ex-wife? Is this man prepared to father more children and raise them (as she probably wants children)?

    Not so simple.

    Agree with Larry Frolick - he gives the best advice. Settle up with the ex- and let yourself HEAL from this divorce instead of falling into a rebound relationship.

    Gloat later (after divorce proceedings are complete) when you've truly met 'the one'.
  65. Alf Fartigan from Canada writes: Terry F from Edmonton, Canada writes: I get hit on by ladies in their early twenties and I'm in my mid-forties. As a matter of fact, one particulary lithe but busty 22 year old psychology student that I've known for the last couple of years asked me a few days ago if I could take some 'photos' of her this summer. Of course I was calm and collect on the outside even though I was singing the hallelujah chorus inside. Life is good.

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    ......... and then, all of a sudden, YOU WAKE UP!!
  66. Joseph T from Victoria, Canada writes: This guy should get himself a nice Asian girl. The divorce rate among white girls plus guy are substantially higher than Asian girls plus guy. He should get himself a divorce lawyer right now to plan for his next divorce.
  67. harry schmidt from Shanghai, China, Canada writes: The trouble with too many women in their late forties or early fifties is, they don't desire their favourite roommate anymore. And I just don't go for the married ones that make passes. What's a guy to do? For myself, I went to Asia and hooked up with twenty plus women. Never been happier, or luckier, as my buddies say in Toronto.
  68. Joe Gopher from Canada writes: X. T. from Canada writes: Craig Cooper from Toronto, writes: This guy doesn't have a problem. He's just bragging!---------------------------
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    Reminds me of the Viagra ads, 'If you have an erection lasting for more than four hours, call a physician.....'.
    Screw that, if I have an erection lasting more than four hours, I'm calling everybody!
  69. Hmmmer Democracy from Recovery, Canada writes: Fifteen years ago I met an intelligent (really smart), beautiful brunnett, sexy, loving woman who just is the sweetest friend my two daughters could ever have hoped to meet. She was 19. I was 17 years older. Took her to see U2 at BC place first date.

    Aside from me not having my emotional post divorce act together for a shot time, we have been deeply in love since we met.

    We couldn't be happier, really. We are a great team, help each other all the time, good with money, have a net worth well over $1,000,000.00 (we're very frugal), and get along super with my X.

    Hmmmer. Things that make ya' go hmmm?
  70. Snoop Doggie from Burlington, Canada writes: B. Tard from eBaums, Kazakhstan writes: The guy is actually WORRIED that his girl is 20 years younger then him?!?!

    A younger girl would be AWESOME! I'd love to get a girlfriend that's 20 years younger then me before my 31st birthday this summer!

    What are you? a Pedophile?
  71. Jim Smith from Canada writes: Why are people so obsessed with marriage?

    I say this guy should be getting as much action as possible. If and when this relationship fizzles, he should go after the next tail, and so on...

    Ah, what a wonderful life...
  72. desiderio manzanal jr from montreal, Canada writes: IF my winey was thinking and that usually the case i would say go for it. But if my head is thinking id say...get your head straight and find out what you really need. Be very careful with younger individuals because they usually are not ready for commitment and you will end up alone with you heart smashed. Of course, we don't know your situation entirely and we don't know how this young lady is. But make sure both of you know what you will be loosing...

    Lets see when you are 60 she will be 40 year of age and still be strong and active....well if you are thinking of her well being...would you want to still continue with this relation...LOve is blind but we must see what is best for the one we love...
  73. CatMan Due from Canada writes: Ya baby!
  74. Jennifer Rollison from Canada writes: Most of the comments above are sexist B.S. written by people with their heads firmly planted in the centre of a skin mag...no wonder women your own age don't like you...listen to yourselves...
  75. Ronnie Byes from Windy City, United States writes: My advice is to take your time getting to know your younger newbie. My, wife (we just got married last September 2007) and I dated for five years getting to really know each other before we made the commitment. I'm 56 and she's 26, so we have so much more 'space' between our ages than you two have.

    You don't need to muddle up this new relationship by telling your ex ANYTHING, as it will just open a Pandora's box and cause more problems for you. If things can eventually be repaired by your ex and you, then by all means make every concerted effort. But if you know 100% that it is hopeless, then move on with your life and TAKE YOUR TIME getting to know your new princess.

    My wife and I are very close and she sticks to me like white on rice. I have never met anyone like her in my entire life and she is my pride and joy. We take good care of each other and ours is a lifetime commitment. By, the way, we'll be have our first bambino this coming July.

    Cheers,
    Byes
  76. Emma Hawthorne from Canada writes: Hi Rebounder. This is very clever and so passive-aggressive of you to get around your wish to flaunt your relationship with a young woman in your wife's face yet keep it secret. Put it in the Globe and Mail!
  77. Emma Hawthorne from Canada writes: It amazes me that middle aged men with money are proud of attracting young women seeking father figures. Would she be there if you didn't have the money?
  78. Joseph T from Victoria, Canada writes: Emma> these kinds of relationships have been around for a long time. From my last business trip to Eastern Europe, I was, frankly stunned, seeing the number older men and younger women couples. I am not sure if it was a mistress relationship, a rented friendship (ie. escort) or something else.

    In reality, these kinds of relationships are not that common. They are rarer than we think. It is just the very obvious age gap makes the visual appearance of the coupling that much more obvious. We notice it more. I do see significant stress and health issues in these couplings when, let's say, he is 85 in a home and she is an active 65.
  79. Rollo Tomasi from Belgium writes: Jennifer Rollison from Canada writes: Most of the comments above are sexist B.S. written by people with their heads firmly planted in the centre of a skin mag...no wonder women your own age don't like you...listen to yourselves...
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    You're right of course. It's so much easier to regress to a little princess than face up to maturity. It's too bad that no one else wants the saggy old doll either, but, c'est la vie.
  80. Mr. Justice from Canada writes: Jennifer Rollison from Canada . . . why do you have a problem with assertive men ? Time for you to work on that defensiveness, doncha think ?
  81. Charla Robinson from Thunder Bay, ON, Canada writes: I say 'go for it!' My husband and I are about to celebrate 12 years together and our 20 year age difference is a mere number on our birth certificates.
  82. Kevin Desmoulin from TO, Canada writes: Well take care of yourself first, Have fun, but think when you are 60 she be 40, a lot is up to her.
  83. John Doucette from Manotick, Canada writes: Go for it! Everyone needs a trophy. When she gets old and wrinkled trade again.
  84. CD W from Canada writes: I have a buddy who had a 19 year old female friend when he was 44. As he said, all of the parts are in the right places! And lots of imagination too! Go get 'em tiger.
  85. Paul Kruger from Vernon, Canada writes: "If you live in a glass house - don't throw stones!" Well, in Canada - at least on the subject of Marriage, "our house" makes London's Crystal Palace (after the WW2 Blitz) look kind of warm and cosy and draft/rain/snow-free! If they both love each other, they will be very happy, if not there are going to be some happy lawyers. Either way, someone is going to end up happy. I know a guy (a little older than me) who at 93 is driving his caddy around North America with his 75 year old girl friend, stopping at all the naughty motels with vibrating beds along the way. He stops in to visit his children in Canada in the summer to play golf with his grandsons. The only problem his children have with his life-style is that they worry she marries him, divorces him and takes 50% of their inheritance, or worse yet, marries him and takes it all! Viagra has changes life at least as much (for men) as the pill changed women's lives in the 60's on. Old stereo-types are now irrelevant ... in the new world of DOLBY 6 1 sound-surround, this guys dillemma seems so, well, "old-fashioned"?
  86. Terry F from Edmonton, Canada writes: Alf Fartigan - "......... and then, all of a sudden, YOU WAKE UP!!"

    LOL. That's pretty much what I was thinking at the time. Then lo and behold the hallelujah chorus was still playing the next day...time to load up on the Geritol
  87. Esaie N from Toronto, Canada writes: Why does it have to be a life partner! Come'on! Nothing is permanent. Just enjoy and to be on the safe side start targeting another 20s. There are plenty willing experienced man as you sound to be.
    And never ever reveal anything to the ex. BTW she might be seeing someone 20 years younger!!
  88. harry carnie from Northern, B.C., Canada writes: Age differences depend on the individuals involved, whether or not a long term relationship can be maintained.
    If a guy likes a "bimbo" go for it ...if both parties are willing who cares?...life is short.
    The same holds true for "Cougars" if you like the young "hunks"carve a "chunk", when you get the chance...what the heck.
  89. Joseph T from Victoria, Canada writes: Harry, your "hunks" carve a "chunk" comment was too funny! Sad...but true.....
  90. Timber Wolf from Richmond, BC, Canada writes: Wow, this thread is still alive. For all you ciphers who encourage dude to score an Asian chick---who fits the stereotype of obsequity---it only reveals what chumps you are. In Vancouver, we have a term of derision for you that goes by the initials RK.
  91. Me in Ontario from Canada writes: I wonder what they'll talk about while they wait for the viagara to kick in or kick it out? LOL
  92. scavok einre from british columbia, Canada writes: When she's 30, he'll be 50. When she's 40, he'll be 60. When she's 50, he'll be 70. When she's 60, he'll be. . .probably six feet under.
  93. Sydney R from Canada writes: They're both well into adulthood. What's the problem? (Probably is bragging though)
  94. Wandering Willy from Victoria, Canada writes: Jennifer Rollison from Canada writes: Most of the comments above are sexist B.S. written by people with their heads firmly planted in the centre of a skin mag...no wonder women your own age don't like you...listen to yourselves...

    Always love your comments Jennifer!

    Personally, when I was in my late teens and early twentys I was mainly with women in their 30's with a few who were in their 40's. Only difference with the women in their 40's vs their 30's was the walks on the beach and the home cooked dinner with a nice wine and lots of conversation. With the 30 year olds it was dancing and drinking!

    I say as long as everyone is legal and having a good time then go for it. And just so you know jennifer there are skin mags that feature girls all in their 30s, 40s and 50s. (MILF magazine for example....grin)
  95. Mary T from Toronto, Canada writes: For all you guys with the "love 'em while they're hot then trade up" attitude, enjoy it but don't think that you're not getting played too. I'm 30 and just last year I dated a 50 year-old man. He loved the idea that I'm younger than he is, he loved my energy and adventurousness, he loved that all my body parts are still in the right places, he even loved that everyone thought I was his daughter. But then he wanted me to marry him and give him children. My response: Hell no, honey, I'm not marrying a man who's going to leave me a young window with little kids, I'm settling down with a man in his 30s or early 40s, but thanks for the good "old man sex" stories my friends and I laughed about! I liked him well enough in the short term, but dating the "old guy" as my friends still call him, was a novelty, in much the same way that it was for him, and I never had any intention of settling down with him. Like I said, enjoy it and have fun, but don't think that your young hottie likes you for who you are any more than you like her for who she is, and don't think she's not playing you for your money and laughing about your sagging body behind your back.
  96. J M from Canada writes: My observations of break-ups is that some people take time to reflect on what they want and were missing in the previous relationship, before replacing it. Others do not, and live their life serially replacing partners.

    I'm not sure what the odds are for keeping a relationship, (and keeping that relationship good), regardless of the post-breakup strategy, but it seems to me that what people do after they end relationships is a product of their personality type, and not best management practices, formulas, or wise advice from experts.

    It sounds to me like you resented your last relationship in its latter years, and may be looking for some immediate "compensation" for having lost that time. Anything is better than the last one, if the last one was bad. I guess one thing to do is to recall that you are a 50% factor in both failed and successful relationships.

    Don't tell the ex, go easy on the expectations of your current relationship, and brace yourself for the vulgarities of divorce.

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