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Being financially smart is a plus in the dating scene. My wife and I just celebrated our 26th wedding anniversary, so I can't tell you this first-hand. But I've reading a lot of blog posts by young adults in the past couple of years that stress the importance of money-related issues in starting new relationships.

Part of this is about partners being in sync on their broad financial goals, and in their attitudes toward saving and spending. But the biggest emphasis seems to be on debt or the risk of getting serious about someone who is heavily indebted. They call it sexually transmitted debt, which means becoming responsible for money borrowed by someone else.

I'm impressed at this level of concern about debt, but I think it needs some refining. Having debt as a young adult can be normal and of no great concern if it was racked up through student loans to finance a promising career. This kind of debt is easily conquerable over time. What you want to be cautious about is junk debt – credit card balances and loans built up buying junk. In expensive housing markets, it's hard enough to afford a house without having junk debt to pay off.

If you google "debt and dating," you'll quickly get a sense of how big deal your finances are when you're single and trying to meet someone. A recent U.S. survey found that one in five people had decided not to date someone because that person had debt. Fear of STD, I guess.

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