I would definitely say I'm a dating enthusiast, but also a realist. Which is why I keep trying to give it a second chance. The app has come leaps and bounds since it first came along, so it’ll be interesting to see its growth and when its popularity plateaus.
How would you describe yourself?
Pretty awesome, well-adjusted, gainfully employed. Ridiculously into pop culture and passionate about music.
JESSE, 34, WRITER AND MARKETER (SHIPWRCKD.COM), TORONTO
Are you currently single?
Have you ever had a relationship off Tinder?
How long have you used Tinder for?
How many matches have you made on Tinder?
102. Part of the reason for the high volume of matches was because I went on vacation last Christmas to Amsterdam and tried the location features on the app. It didn’t work, so I shut it off. But when I got home, I noticed I was getting dozens of dutch girls in my feed because I guess the app did work in the end, and my matches wound up in the queue. I swiped “yes” for most of them because, hey, who doesn’t want to have a bunch of new friends in Amsterdam for next time? On the other hand, who knows what the app’s lifespan will be, or if it will still be in use by the next time I visit.
How many of these matches have you met in real life?
Two planned meetups, a couple of “hey … haha, you’re that guy from Tinder that I haven’t written to yet.”
What do you think of Tinder? Especially in comparison to other dating sites and apps (Blendr, plentyoffish.com, match.com, eHarmony, etc.).
I think it makes you feel like you’re getting lucky with a real person that is problem/hang-up-free, because you aren’t meeting them through the stigma of a dating site, but I feel that results are just as dicey. Having no profile to speak of really does create intrigue and forces you to talk with the person of interest, but some girls join out of curiosity rather than intention. Or they still feel it has the stigma of any other online-dating site, so are reluctant to admit that they are using it to meet people.
Have you had any more or less success at meeting people on Tinder?
I don’t actively seek to meet girls from Tinder, but after nine months of using the app, my most successful meetup was with a girl who is now my dentist. I had just starting seeing someone at the time, but she was very persistent, so I reluctantly met up out of curiosity. It turns out we really weren’t a match, which was a relief. But she grew up down the street from me and works at a successful dental clinic with her family. My former dentist had recently retired, So I was in dentist limbo. Problem solved! She even plays me Songza playlists when I come in.
What do you love most about Tinder?
It’s really just a time-waster with a fantasy edge to it. Some people are okay with meeting up fairly soon, but I feel that other girls are more standoff-ish (understandably) and would probably take a lot more effort to get them comfortable enough to meet up with you. It’s weird, but it’s also something to fall back on if you are going through something uncomfortable during your day … or feeling frustrated with your IRL person of interest. It’s a good way to vent frustration.
What's one thing you would change?
It ain’t broke, so don’t fix it.
Who would you say is the type of person who would like using Tinder?
It has a pretty broad appeal: Guys who enjoy fishing with their shirts off. Girls obsessed with selfies. Shy girls that like that they can post numerous group shots with friends, and don’t have to be seen alone. People that are curious about online dating, but don’t want to commit to writing a whole profile.
Is Tinder the real deal when it comes to online dating?
It’s just another avenue. While it gives you the head-turning simulation of catching someone pretty walking down the street, there’s still not all that much chemistry to it. Although I’ve heard it can work out well still. It works well for flirty conversations, but escalating to an actual date or meetup is a whole other game.
How would you describe yourself?
Outgoing, eclectic, but a bit shy and reserved when it comes to meeting someone I actually like.
These interviews have been edited and condensed.