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In a recent study, many women described their marriage as, "The relationship feels like a chore."

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Listen up, guys. If you want to keep your marriage spicy, don't even think about resting on your laurels (let alone that threadbare easy chair in front of the Xbox).

Woman are more likely than men to report being bored in wedlock, a series of Canadian studies shows.

The research on married and dating couples reveals 70 ways in which women tire of marriage more easily than men, the Daily Mail reports.

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On a list, women were more likely to check off descriptions of the relationship being "dull," lacking fun and conversation and being devoid of romance. Plenty of women picked the phrase, "The relationship feels like a chore." Ouch.

While dating, however, unmarried men were more bored than women without a ring on their finger, the research found.

Dating women "might experience less boredom because they can more readily extricate themselves from a relationship once boredom sets in," writes psychologist Beverley Fehr of the University of Winnipeg in the journal Personal Relationships.

Dr. Fehr adds that passersby questioned on the street would likely identify things such as conflict, betrayal and selfishness as obstacles to a lasting marriage, even though boredom "may be the correct answer."

Warning signs that your lover has lost interest include passionless kisses and frequent sighing, according to The Simpsons creator Matt Groening. If you're married, chances are it's downhill from there. In a long-term study of married couples, psychologist Irene Tsapelas of Stony Brook University and colleagues found that boredom seven years into the marriage predicted less satisfaction nine years later, regardless of couple conflict or tension.

The good news? Researchers at the State University of New York confirmed that couples have increased relationship quality when they share novel and "arousing" activities.

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