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If these were your sons, which one would you like better?

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Parents, you may say you love your children equally. But c'mon. You secretly have a favourite, don't you?

This dad has one. And he's not ashamed to admit it.

The blogger, who posts on the web site Babble under the name Dadcamp, says he caught some flak for an earlier entry in which he briefly mentioned that his oldest is his favourite of his two sons.

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At least one commenter responded, gently warning him that the "'favourite kid' part could hurt someone's feelings one day."

This prompted Dadcamp to explain.

"Yes, I have a favourite son and I'm not ashamed to admit it," he wrote. "I'm guessing you could look deep in the mirror and admit you have a favourite too."

He said he doesn't give his favoured child, Zacharie, preferential treatment. "I just..yknow .. like him better."

Dadcamp goes on to further disclose that while he's loved his sons since their birth, he didn't really "fall in love with them until they could do stuff."

As The Hot Button noted last year, having a favourite child is one of those parenting taboos, like wishing your kids were cooler or smarter. But it's hardly uncommon, and it seems more parents are copping to it.

As this mother confesses on Nickelodeon's Parentsconnect.com, she tells her two daughters she loves them both when they ask whom among them she loves more. "Which is the truth. It's just a good thing they don't ask me which one I like more…'cause that's a different story."

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And in an interview with the Daily Mail, Jeffrey Kluger, author of The Sibling Effect: What the Bonds Among Brothers and Sisters Reveal About Us and father of two, claims almost all parents feel the same way.

"Ninety-five per cent of parents in the world have a favourite child – and the other 5 per cent are lying."

Psychologists don't agree on just how favouritism affects children, but there is consensus that parents should never let on which of their children they like best, even when their kids are adults, the Daily Mail reported.

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