How much should I know about my man's past?

The question:

I dated a man several months ago when he was going through a divorce, then decided I didn't want such an entangled relationship.

But now we're talking again, and I'm not ruling him out. Initially I was fine with the Coles Notes version of his situation, but now I'd like details about the divorce arrangement, the marriage, his ex and his kids. How much is appropriate to ask?

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